There are many relationship laws which I discovered while working as a professional Gestalt psychologist.I have already put some of them out here and planning to release more in the near future.
In this article I want to talk about 12 relationship laws every man is required to know.
1. Loving People Who Love You
“Stop creating problems for yourself”All problems disappear if you stop creating them for yourself. It’s easy to love those who love you… But us humans are always unsatisfied with what we got and we’re always striving to achieve perfection. With some women this aspiration turns into a pathology and if she is liked by someone, she automatically labels that guy as a loser. And that’s because her self esteem is so low that she actually thinks no normal guy can like her. And eventually she’s left with only losers in her life. It’s easy to spot people like this. They (especially women) say things like:
“Why do I always get hit on by losers?”
or
“I can never find a normal guy”
Now that’s a sign of low self esteem right there.
And on the other side of the spectrum we have an attractive, confident woman with a powerful potential of a temptress who tries to find something good in every man she meets (along with useful things these men can do for her).
See the difference?
Love those who love you and you will be surrounded by a very large number of caring and loving people. Then if they stop loving you, there’s nothing easier than to get out of the problematic relationship. That’s why if a woman wants to be with me she must be well behaved.
That’s exactly why when I find out that a certain woman likes me, I give her extra points:
“She must have good taste because she likes me. I need to pay closer attention to her.”
2.Loving the Most Patient and Persistent
(traditionally a method used by women, now revealed to men).
“Patient and persistent women”The key here is to let women love you. And to open your eyes wide to see the women who are willing to do it.
These women could be among your friends or be plentiful while you’re walking down the street or sitting at a bar. These women want to love and give themselves to someone and think that maybe you are the man she’s ready to give herself to.
To notice women like this on the streets – use the technique I mentioned here and you’ll get dozens of women.
But remember:
letting women love you doesn’t mean that you’re ready to sleep with any of them.
This is exactly how you put yourself in a woman’s shoes. That’s what women do. Love for a man is to get the girl. Love for a woman is to answer the love of the most persistent man, who’s better all other men competing for her.
What you’re doing here is choosing the best woman out of all women that are available. And she’s choosing the best guy from a group of men who court her. That’s the relationship psychology. If you were a woman that’s exactly how you would have to act. Women don’t have any other strategy. That’s the only one they got. And they do pretty well with it.
So now you have two strategies for attracting women. You can act man-like, go out and pick out any woman you like, or woman-like – choose a woman from a group of women who already like you.
3. Cruelty And Kindness Training
“Big, obedient cat”Lately I’ve become a lot smoother and don’t play the “cruelty” game anymore. I only use it to punish when women do something I don’t like. And when women do what I like – I reward that and give more love.
But between regular people it works backwards: when a woman he loves pulls away, a man tries to be NICER and does more things for her. And when the woman he loves starts treating him too nice – he starts acting like a smug asshole. During the long-term relationship do the OPPOSITE and you’ll reap the greatest benefits. That’s how tiger trainers turn a vicious predator into a big, obedient cat.
4. You Need To Make Women Think About You
Doesn’t matter good or bad thoughts. When thinking of you, she’s working up energy that’s exclusively addressed towards you. For her to release this energy and get rid of emotions – she needs you. Another guy won’t do – she’s gotta have YOU.
“Thinking of you”
Both rough and soft methods of making women think about you work. Even gifts need to be given with a certain purpose: women needs to see your gift often so it reminds them of you. That’s exactly why women love giving their own photos, cups, etc. to guys.
5. Take Risks If You Don’t Want To End Up In The “Friend Zone”
“Success: Friend Zone Avoided”
Why does the conversation become boring between the man and woman?
Because they both try very hard to avoid talking about the elephant in the room...
What’s the elephant in the room?
The elephant in the room is the FACT that women and men are different and that you don’t need to try to conceal your manly qualities that make us different from them. For example, she knows that sex will happen eventually. So don’t act like sex between men and women is something taboo and shouldn’t be talked about at all. Don’t necessarily bring it up, but rather accept it as something natural.
6. Create Tests and Hardships in the Relationship
“Living through hardships”A woman can, and most importantly WANTS to live through different hardships in her relationship with a man. Women think they’re living a passionate and interesting life when there’s always something going on. That’s how they decide that they’re in love. Coming over her pride for the sake of your relationship makes her decide that she’s in live with you.
She might be laying on your chest one day, about to fall asleep – then realize how much she went through with you and start feeling “in love” all of the sudden.
7. What To Do If A Girl Just Dumped You
“The Manual”Don’t be chasing after the low tide. You won’t catch up anyway. Just wait for the high tide. Obviously, you’ll need to learn how to wait. Sometimes you need to wait for a long time to meet the woman in which you invested so much of your own energy again.
And sometimes you wait to simply strike back, for revenge. A counter strike is more painful. When you’re trying to hurt the woman who’s already leaving – she doesn’t care. She’s leaving anyway. But it’s totally different when you’re striking towards a burst of emotions of your partner, when she’s wanting to come back – now there’s a chance to hurt her self-esteem and get the feelings back… You just need to wait.
The irony is that this law always works. The more time passes, the more the probability of her coming back increases. This is a fact that’s been proven over and over. The probability of this happening in this big cities is 101%. The woman you did many things for – will never forget it. You’ll become known as “the guy who treated me the best” in her book. So she will remind you of her, maybe not very often, but she will. Use that.
8. The Law of Love Energy Conservation
The energy you invested in the woman you love didn’t just disappear, it just changed the form.
9. Treating Love Like Gasoline
If you love a woman and she’s indifferent to you, you need to burn all of the “love gasoline.” Try courting her or making her come back, until you just get lazy and tired of trying. That means that all of the “love gasoline” has been burnt. I personally used to have lots of “gas” in me, I could do a lot for a woman without expecting anything in return, until I got bored and tired of it.
Right now I get bored and tired really quick and I don’t even have enough “gas” for basic flowers or words…
Right now it’s like:
“Make your mind up faster, I got 10 more women waiting…”
Now, here’s a practical example of how you can use this law:
Let’s say you set up a date with a woman. You’ve been waiting for very long and she still isn’t there. You KNOW that she’s not going to come to the date at all but you’re still standing there, waiting. What for??? To burn the gas!
Why burn the gas in such useless way? Well, if she was an important person in your life you’d be burning gas by trying to get her back or to get her to come to the date. But since you’ve only seen her only a few times, now you’re destroying any traces of your affection for her. In an hour you’ll start hating her because you’ve been standing there waiting for her for so long. And as soon as you become bored out of your mind and tired of waiting and you start noticing other attractive women – you’ve destroyed all attachment to this woman with this simple action.
10. The Law of Vampiric Relationships
“Scared yet?”Most of the time the women who were indifferent to you when you loved them were energy vampires. They suck energy out of several men at the same time, without giving anything back because they’re feeding their own unanswered feelings towards some other energy vampire.
Remember, energy can’t just disappear – it turns from one into another. When a woman takes something from you and doesn’t return the favor that’s because she’s giving it to someone else.
Now, these vampires are not capable of putting an end to their own exhausting relationships so they’re forced to feed on the side. Energy vampires don’t understand with their chicken brains that they’re actually capable of putting an end to this drainage of emotions. And only when you’re off her hook – you have a chance to change things. To get off her hook means to become totally indifferent towards her and her games, and tell her straight up about what it is you want. Doesn’t matter if she likes that or not.
11. Temptress – The Price of Love
Tempting You
The most experienced temptresses easily allow men to love them, but aren’t in a rush to sleep with these guys. They’re very positive, great to talk to and other nice things, like flirting with you, smiling at you, getting really excited when they see you and when you call. (Scam artists always let their victims win first, too. ; – ))) But as soon as your conversation and relationship goes deeper – they put a price on it.
This is supposed to be the painful part of the relationship, used to pump resources out of you. And be sure that she has several guys like you who are ready to give her what she needs, if you don’t.
A little later she’ll show you her other men so that you don’t think that you’re the only one who wants her. And her most favorite torture of all is to hug and cuddle with some other good-looking, attractive guy right in front of you. (Sometimes I act as that attractive guy for my girl-friends when they ask for that favor). And you don’t even know that they’re just friends. And that guy is just returning the favor which your woman will then do for him in front of his women, who he’s trying to game.
It’s just a game she plays.
And right after a woman used these techniques on you, you start thinking about her waaay too often when she’s not around. And that’s why you fall for her.
12. And Again, Love Those Who Love You
The wisest thing you can learn in life and in relationships – is to learn those who love you. And it isn’t only wise but also noble… (because to answer to someone’s love is a noble act and there is some sacrifice in it)… and very favorable.
If you let yourself be loved, when you’re in a relationship with a woman – you’re getting much more resources from a woman than if you “did the loving.”
I remember arguing with someone who liked bitchy women and wanted to prove me wrong. I explained to him the way I, in some way, act like a “bitchy woman” – so why would I need another one?
On the contrary, I choose women who want to give love and this way I achieve two things:
1.Personal growth – because I can see the woman for who she really is and not make the decision based on her deceptive looks.
2.Gifts from the universe – I get whatever it is these women want to share with me because I’m with her and give her an opportunity to be happy with me.
And if you realize the merciful deepness of this love, you will love back. And then you can just relax and enjoy yourself in an incredible relationship.
And for those who say that this approach does not allow you to chose the most beautiful women out there, but instead have to settle for whoever likes you, I can say one thing:
Well, you don’t get every woman that you want anyway. You get only a percentage of those who you pursue.
When you turn up your attraction magnet to the max it’s similar to catching fish with a net. You get totally different fish, different colors and sizes. And a percentage of them will be women who you chose with great pleasure and satisfaction.
By Alex Odessa
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This article is just a tip of the iceberg. A lot of additional information is left behind the curtain. Not only the laws of how the relationship psychology works or psychological emotion analysis and the dynamics of passion development, but also various methods of domination and manipulative ways of controlling the relationships. And also ways to avoid being used by women, how to put women in place and building the relationships YOU want – all this is covered during our live trainings and in our products.
