Pre-contact phase in the approach

• All of the feelings of uncertainty, fear and excitement – they are all in the what I call the Pre-Contact phase.
• Will you move towards the girl or run away from her – this is also in the pre-contact phase.
• All of the 4 important things I talked about: How much the woman physically attracts you, how available she is, how much you’re turned on and how she’s signaling to you that she’s available – that’s also in the pre-contact phase.
• Here’s the BIG SECRET: If you can STRETCH this phase of pre-contact between you and the woman and you’re COMFORTABLE being in it, you’re psychologically more stronger than the woman.
• Westerns: two cowboys stand in front of each other and about to draw their guns. And they’re not drawing their guns yet, they’re looking at each other. There is a pause. And usually if a cowboy draws his pistol first, he gets shot because he’s weaker. It’s a display of masculine power.
• Samurais have the same deal: they can stand and wait with their swords drawn out and wait until one of them has a gap in his psychological state and feels fear – then he attacks.
• You have to feel confident in this phase of pre-contact.

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